{"id":107,"date":"2025-12-08T12:01:02","date_gmt":"2025-12-08T12:01:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/searchingwithin.com\/wordpress\/?p=107"},"modified":"2026-05-08T15:09:15","modified_gmt":"2026-05-08T15:09:15","slug":"goodbye-19","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/searchingwithin.com\/wordpress\/?p=107","title":{"rendered":"Goodbye 19?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Following up on age 19. I&#8217;m not sure I fully conveyed what the grief was about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Farrier School was my first taste of belonging and independence. When farrier school ended in fall 1982, everything I&#8217;d learned and experienced started fading immediately. Todd left to start freelancing. I was the only student that didn\u2019t continue using their new skills.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The next semester at OSU meant the belonging was gone, instructors were gone, and the skill went dormant. My college friends were still around, but I knew our time was temporary. The forced move to Wisconsin was coming fast &#8211; I couldn&#8217;t stop it, didn&#8217;t want pre-vet, was still missing my farrier school experience. The looming move poisoned the whole spring. I was so soaked in the grief, I don&#8217;t know how I made it through that semester. An emotional spring, transition right into an isolated summer 2,000 miles away: no money, no friends, just sitting in the house waiting for classes to start. My toolbox was stowed in a back corner, starting to rust.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Later, Farrier Science did get swapped for rock climbing, the next thing I was good at. For a while.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">How do you learn to say goodbye to old versions of yourself?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Following up on age 19. I&#8217;m not sure I fully conveyed what the grief was about. 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