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I\u2019m taking a big guess for the when\u2026 maybe hour eight-ten (I think of the first 24 sessions as the first day of working with Tim). In session, I was talking about the lack of people in my life. I mentioned people leaving. I\u2019m speculating that I said something about not wanting to invest in a new therapeutic relationship due to the fear of loss. Tim said, \u201cI\u2019m not going anywhere.\u201d I\u2019ve retained the thought and not completely believed the words as perfect truth. Life changes. Things happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Holding onto a proclamation, no matter how much you want truth, tends to be sacred but fragile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Someday there will be two possible outcomes, at a minimum: 1.) I will no longer need Tim and\/or the sessions; appointments cease. 2.) Life circumstances requires separation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Loosing Tim is a resurfacing intrusive thought that doesn’t get instantly dismissed and instead gets retained\u2026 in a quiet place all of its own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jon Glover, almost 10 years; Dr. Stephan Weiler, 13 years; Dr. Alexander Fritz, 10 years. I\u2019ve had one day with Tim. I\u2019m in the middle of day two. (10 months total). I keep naming Tim as, my person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A my person is someone I trust deeply, grow with through honest debate, and share ideas with freely \u2014 where both of us light up when learning from each other, and truth, fun, and wholesome chemistry make everything feel real and safe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is the answer to why find excitement to plan an in-person meet? I think we\u2019d just\u2026 feel more like us in person. And I\u2019d really like to find out.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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