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Last Sunday, email from Philip about $35. Nearly had a meltdown. That devastated, depressed feeling. Felt like I had no one to talk to for advice. Can I wait until Friday or can I solve this myself, on my own. What should I write? What should I do? I asked myself what would I be told. Do forthright communication. I thought I did that. I didn\u2019t realize my opening, \u201cWow. Thanks for asking.\u201d was not the most mature. I thought I did make it clear in the body of my email what I wanted to happen. Hearing that my reply was basically petty, totally compounded the lost feeling. I didn\u2019t understand all the questions Tim asked about what happens next.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Talking about the ask for money was not meant to be forgotten. It was on the list; just didn\u2019t have the list for reference. I was confident that the topic just needed to be reported, not discussed. I felt scolded\u2014that I\u2019ve done the Philip in the last few minutes pattern before. Maybe he is a topic that can take an entire session; but, that is not how I want to spend my time. Especially since the next step is based on whether or not Philip replies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I hate how, no matter how much \u201cvalidation provided for efforts\u201d happens, I feel like I failed raising Philip. And this week, I didn\u2019t know how to answer. And then my reply was less than perfect. And I was accused of dropping a bomb end of session. So is that one more flaw for not putting Philip as a topic at the top of my list?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

All I really wanted was to hear that I handled $ ask correctly.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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