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Says he didn&#8217;t know I was unhappy\u2014yet earlier this week he suspected I might be mad at him (shows he knew his behavior affected me). I didn&#8217;t agree to his coming back; but I couldn&#8217;t say a clear NO about apartment either. I put money on books at his request. I will call PO Monday for clarity.<br>\u00a0<br>I feel manipulated and guilty.<br>\u00a0<br>His breath tester is beeping\u2014an annoying reminder of whole situation. Need help saying NO firmly without having an over the top emotional outburst that makes me look unstable. Want Wednesday crisis slot\u2014will call on Monday to check availability to get help coping. Friday is far away.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Re: Request for Wednesday crisis slot due to need for help setting firm boundary.\u00a0Roommate called from jail twice Saturday. I had to be the one to tell him about no longer welcome to stay with me and that I\u2019ve been clearing out furniture and packing his things. 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