Tim asked why I got divorced. I gave you the surface version verbally about Steven and later a daily about Rick. Neither was complete — not even close to a full picture.
Realizing I had done it again — given you the surface information when the real version existed — I was compelled into two days of intense writing. Weekend therapy happened. I’m providing my answer, not a glimpse.
The why is in there. I’m working on using good writing style to show, not tell. I want you to use the information, the stories. Ask me more questions. Report back as to what I did in my marriages and what can be done differently.
However. FEAR. I am afraid that somewhere in these Steven and Rick stories, you will stop being my therapist and become an ordinary person with ordinary judgments. That you will read “idyllic farm, good man, still not happy” and think: why wasn’t that enough? Or, why didn’t I leave sooner? Or, dismiss bipolar as a real issue. Or, the ugly truth: some actions might warrant a ‘bitch move’ label.
Maybe having the surface versions were all you needed — but it would be really great if the complete version gives you better material to review, analyze, and turn into a plan that actually fixes me before my next long term relationship.
I can hear Rocky saying to you, “Time for Tim to expand superpower, question?”
I called scheduling first thing Monday. No “talk soon.” It’s gonna be a gap. Tenacity has always been my superpower :::sigh:::
Attachment: The-History-of-Relationships-1983-1993.pdf
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